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Do We Need a 3rd Party?

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Do We Need a 3rd Party?

EVER WISH WE HAD A THIRD POLITICAL PARTY here in America? Based on the emergence of candidates Trump and Sanders, we obviously don’t want the status quo. Maybe the only way to get what we want is to start from scratch. Just because we’ve had 2 parties for a long time, doesn’t mean we necessarily will always have 2 parties, or that those parties won’t change. America is a very young country. We can create what we want, we just have to have the ability to visualize it and the will to make it happen. Most people don’t agree with me, but change is inevitable. What form that change takes is up to us.

Curious about this topic? Here are some links about this year’s election, and the 3 largest alternative parties:

Sorry, There Isn’t Going to be a Third Party Run! from RedState

Libertarian, Green Party, Constitutional Party links on Wikipedia

If You Were Running for President

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If You Were Running for President

IF YOU WERE RUNNING FOR PRESIDENT, what would your platform be? None of us seem to be happy with any of the candidates currently vying for the highest office in the land. We’d like to pick and choose from among the various planks of their platforms and stump speeches. One is all for regulating the big banks, but is too hawkish. One wants to build a wall and doesn’t want to let in Syrian refugees, which is pretty xenophobic, but we like his ideas about keeping our fingers out of everyone’s political pies. So, this morning, over hot coffee and oatmeal, I did a little Presidential day dreaming. Who would my ideal candidate be? What would they say?

First of all, I wouldn’t care if they were male, female, Republican, Democrat, black, white, Latino, or as my mom would say “pink and purple polka dot”. I just want them to have integrity. And I take that back about the political party affiliation. I doubt that any candidate that comes up through the ranks in one of the major  parties would be free enough from party politics to tackle the issues that are gumming up the current system. Before you read my list, create your own. I’ll bet most Americans, liberal or conservative, when it comes right down to it, want many of the same things. We all agree we need to clean house – and we don’t just mean the White House. The Legislature is even worse.

CAMPAIGN FINANCE REFORM This has to be first. Get the money and corruption out of the system. Every person pays some small, mandatory fee ($5.00) each year along with their taxes. Every candidate gets equal time on national TV. Every candidate gets a website. Debates are actual discussions of policies vs character-attacking slug fests.

My ideal candidate would have a clear mission statement that would say something to this effect:

As President I will work to create a peaceful, prosperous, safe, healthy America, without harming other nations or the planet. 


Then I’d list a few specifics:

SIMPLIFY THE TAX CODE I’m fine with a flat tax, close ALL loopholes and everyone pays their fair share – a straight percentage. You’d have to ease it in so people wouldn’t lose their homes and small businesses wouldn’t go under, but this could be done tomorrow if anyone really wanted to.

STREAMLINE THE MILITARY Since there will always be bullies on the block, you need a strong military; but we don’t need to be all over the globe, trying to control everything. It’s not possible anyway, as we’ve seen time and again. The military should be focused on defense. A side benefit of not meddling in everyone else’s business is that we may not need as much military because we’ll stop pissing people off.

BASIC HUMAN HEALTH, HOUSING, & FOOD The problem with all of our current systems that purport to help Americans is that they don’t actually help.  When someone is sick, out of a job or injured, they should receive the maximum help for the shortest amount of time. Currently, it’s just the opposite. I’d focus on prevention, not sweeping up after the fact, or keeping someone dependent for years, but not helping them become independent. Every American deserves to have their basic needs met. Then, if they want more than that, they are free to invent, innovate, work hard and live the American dream.

EDUCATION Every American child deserves an excellent education. In order to do that, we’re going to have to revamp the way education is funded in America. Every school should be funded equally – not based on local taxes. Every classroom should be designed for optimal learning and equally equipped. Every teacher should be of excellent caliber – a person who wants to be a teacher.  Finland put its children first by deciding to pay its teachers a higher salary than its engineers, and that kind of investment takes political will. We are currently too worried about protecting states rights. We need to stop worrying about looking good, and focus instead on being good. We’re so worried about test scores that each state tries to outdo the others in having the ‘most rigorous’ standards, they make it almost impossible to speak the truth, based on international research, which is that students learn more when they master basic concepts first. But, states won’t lessen the number of standards taught in K-3, for fear of lowering their academic expectations for students.

THE JUSTICE SYSTEM We would have one. Currently, we don’t. Putting kids away for years for minor drug offenses, jails for profit, caring more about looking ‘tough on crime’ vs actually doing those things that would prevent crime and be tough on actual criminals – these are the issues I’d tackle.

IMMIGRATION Who is an American? Who do we let in? Who do we keep out? That question has been answered in many different ways – most of which were unfair to someone. We are a very new country, and our immigration history is messy. My Irish ancestor’s arrival on Ellis Island and some of my students who were born here, but whose parents are undocumented. As of now, both are citizens. Who’s to say who should be a citizen or can become one? Well…we have to. At some point, we need to make some firm decisions and decide what is beneficial to our nation, while not harming others, and then apply the policy promptly and fairly. In general, I think that if we stick to our democratic principles, we will let more people in legally, with shorter wait times, after thorough vetting to protect health and safety, and simultaneously reduce incentives for illegal immigration.

GOD, RELIGION, ABORTION, RACE, GAY MARRIAGE and all other sticky topics… We have a separation of church and state for good reason. People should all be allowed to worship freely as long as they do not harm others. Every American is entitled to holding a strong opinion – whether that opinion is based on religious beliefs, education, or life experience doesn’t matter. That’s what makes us Americans. What doesn’t make us American is to try to push our religious beliefs on others or do harm to someone else because of their religious beliefs, ethnic background, sexual orientation, or color of their skin.

Maybe someday I’ll hear a Presidential candidate say these things…

Nice or Necessary?

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Nice or Necessary?

WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU SAW A LARGE ANIMAL IN THE WILD that really had an impact on you? How important is it that we create and keep wild spaces for large animals? Is it just nice to have wild animals around, or necessary to our survival? Narrowing that choice down a bit more, is it necessary to our souls or spirits, or just our physical survival?  This Saturday Salon question opens all kinds of discussion doors.

In doing research for my next novel, I am learning about the southern sea otter – where it went and when and if it’s coming back. It got me to thinking about the impact catching a glimpse of a magnificent wild animal thriving in its natural habitat has had on me. I remember a quiet, solitary morning hike interrupted by the thundering of hooves. Not sure what it was, I sort of froze in place and looked around for the source of the noise. A magnificent buck with an impressive spread of antlers and three does had been grazing peacefully on the downhill side of the trail. When I came around the corner, they galloped across the open path to the safety of the thicker forest uphill to my right. In an instant they were gone. They were healthy, strong creatures just doing their thing. I felt lucky to have seen them. It’s not like deer are an endangered species or anything, but still – it was cool.

It is counterintuitive to think that saving large animals means saving ourselves, but it’s important to understand it’s a pragmatic choice, not just a touchy-feely tree-hugger choice. I don’t pretend to be a zoologist or environmental scientist of any kind, but here’s a short and sweet youtube video that explains it simply, using elephants as an example.

Why Protect Large Wild Animals like Elephants?

Bernie or Hillary?

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Bernie or Hillary?

ARE YOU AS TORN AS I AM about whether to vote for someone whose ideals you cherish, or someone you think is not only electable, but may get SOME of the things you want done, while making sure current ground gained is not eroded?

If you’re a Democrat, we’re talking about Bernie and Hillary, if you’re Republican, Donald Trump and Mark Rubio or Ted Cruz probably come to mind. If you’re an Independent, God knows what you’re thinking at this point.

What are you thinking, America? And do these tough decisions drive you to or away from the voting booth?

Are You a Goal Setter?

Posted by on 7:16 pm in Family, Musings, Saturday Salon Community, Topic Questions | 0 comments

Are You a Goal Setter?


I got over a back injury, out of debt, through undergraduate and graduate school while raising my two sons. I started two new careers,  finished several books, and eight years ago, met the man that would become my husband. Whatever I set my laser focus on, I seemed to be able to achieve.

But for some reason, I’ve lost steam…can’t figure out if I’m just content and wiser or lazier. I don’t think that means I’ve accomplished everything I need or want to accomplish.  Not sure what it means – I’m going to have another cup of coffee and give that some thought…

Good Questions for your January Saturday Salon hat:

  • Do you set goals? If so, how do you select what goals to set, and what results have you had?
  • Describe a goal you reached, but wished you hadn’t.
  • Describe your most successful attempt at reaching a goal, whether you achieved it or not. Did the process teach you anything about yourself?
  • If your spouse (close friend or family member) sets a goal for themselves to lose weight or save money, how can you support them without nagging or being critical?
  • Have you ever had someone else set a goal for you? If so, how did that turn out?
  • What do you think your single most important goal should be this year?


Where Do You Get Your News?

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Where Do You Get Your News?

As a Saturday Salon host, part of your job is to stimulate conversation with well-worded questions. Each guest can write their own questions to put in the hat, but you want to make sure you add a few or your own.  Here’s how you do it:

Aim for 3-5 questions covering a wide range of topics. It’s always good to write a funny one such as “What is the proper way to load a dishwasher?” Then look at areas such as Religion, Politics, Health, Education, Relationships, and Family – topics people want to talk about, think about often, but rarely have a safe place to discuss.

Let’s say you are writing a question for Politics. You could focus on News – how we get information that forms our Political opinions. Make sure your questions can’t be answered with a simple Yes or N, but are designed to elicit thoughtful responses. Two part questions are fine. Here are a few samples:

  • Where do you get your news, and how reliable do you think it is?
  • The media has often been called the fourth branch of government – what does that mean to you, and how do you feel about the media here in America?
  • How essential is a free press and which, if any news outlets are free of bias, influence, or corruption?
  • With the presidential election coming up, how do you assess the value of candidates? What is your source for news about them?
  • Online vs Paper – how do you get your news, and is one better than the other?
  • How does the American media compare to International sources? Do you ever listen to or read Al Jazeera or the BBC or ???

Don’t wait for ten minutes before guests arrive (although I am guilty of that!). Write some now or check out the Topics page on this site.

The Displaced

Posted by on 5:29 pm in Family, Political, Saturday Salon Community, Spirituality/Religion, Topic Questions | 0 comments

The Displaced

I NEVER CRY. Well, that’s not entirely true, but I am generally not sentimental, and I almost never cry over international tragedies over which I have zero control. But this morning, the New York Times gave me the dubious opportunity to open up my tear ducts. I get most of our news online, but on Sundays, I indulge in an old-school, paper newspaper. This morning, it came, incongruously, with a small cardboard virtual reality viewing box. We downloaded the app on John’s smart phone and watched the virtual reality story The Displaced.

It is a simple story – a snapshot of 3 children’s lives across the globe who are part of the 30 million who have been displaced by war and persecution. The video puts you on the boat with the Sudanese boy, in the very swamp he ran to – choosing between death by crocodile and death by the fighters. It puts you in the cucumber field with the young girl, living in a country that doesn’t want her. You can almost sit in the desk in the bombed out classroom in Ukraine, and you are there with the grandmother and grandson as they work in the garden in which they found the grandfather’s body, which had lain for months after they escaped. I feel overwhelmed. I can’t adopt 30 million children, but I will be looking for ways to help those I can.

New York Times Article Introduction: The Displaced

No Bacon???

Posted by on 2:41 pm in Health, Political, Saturday Salon Community, Topic Questions | 0 comments

No Bacon???


In stronger terms than any organization has every used, on October 26th, 2015, the World Health Organization (WHO) officially identified processed meat as a Group 1 carcinogen, which means it is strongly linked to cancer. Red meats were a close second, falling into Group 2A, meaning they probably cause cancer. Hard to believe red meat is now listed right alongside mustard gas and DDT as probably causing cancer. Yikes!

Topics like this are great for your Saturday Salon hat in and of themselves, but also because they bring up many other issues, such as vegetarianism and climate change. It also brings up questions about studies and statistics.

Who funded the study? Who funds that organization?  Were the results agreed upon by everyone? (In this case, 68% confirmed the results-a unanimous vote was not required before the announcement.) What is a meta-analysis vs a single study? If cancer is a complex disease with multiple causes, how can they say a single food causes cancer? What about blood pressure, obesity, exercise and other factors? Don’t those play a role? What does ‘an 18% increased risk’ actually mean?

In everyday conversations, we usually avoid any topic we think may result in an argument. That, or we don’t have time to get into it, so why bother? But we don’t change the world by clinging to our opinions or being afraid to consider an opposite point of view.

Saturday Salons give you the opportunity to not just share your current opinions, but your whys. WHY do you think as you do? As the Talking Stick goes around the circle, we also get to hear other people’s whys – one or more of which may ring true with us. After every Saturday Salon, at least one topic sends me to Google to learn more.

So start making that guest list and pick your next free Saturday…! As the host, you can throw a few good questions in the hat to get things going, but be sure to allow your guests to write their own. The discussion will be richer if you talk about what’s on everyone’s mind, not just yours.

A Saturday Salon host gives their guests the gift of time and space to share ideas, thoughts, and feelings – and the tools to keep things civil when the topics get hot!


Posted by on 5:29 pm in Health, Saturday Salon Community, Topic Questions | 0 comments



Who really needs to be gluten free? Can you simply eat less bread? What’s the difference between celiac disease, gluten intolerance, and being allergic to wheat? And is this all some plot to get us to buy the plethora of new, usually more expensive, gluten free products sprouting from our grocery store shelves?

One out of every three people in America say they need to eat gluten free. Be honest…don’t you roll your eyes just a little when they say that? With all the confusion swirling around this topic, it’s no wonder we get a little skeptical when someone says they’ve decided to eat gluten free, lactose free or any of the other frees out there. And what if you’re one of them? It’s so much trouble to read labels and so hard to take a pass on the aromatic french bread basket at the restaurant. Just a little won’t hurt…will it? It might…and it might not…it depends.

There are many reasons people avoid gluten, which is found in wheat, rye, barley. Often, they are looking for solutions to intestinal symptoms they’ve suffered for most of their lives: gas, bloating, urgent bowel movements, diarrhea and/or constipation. They know where every public restroom is within a 10-mile radius of their home. They’ve been inundated with confusing, conflicting possible causes: irritable bowel syndrome, Chrohn’s disease, food allergies, colitis, or just plain stress. Well-meaning friends, relatives, and often, doctors tell them to ‘just relax’. Right.

If you want to do a little quick research, the Celiac Disease Foundation is a good place to start:

CELIAC DISEASE The granddaddy of reasons for avoiding anything and everything with gluten in it. According to the Celiac Disease Foundation, “When people with celiac disease eat gluten (a protein found in wheat, rye and barley), their body mounts an immune response that attacks the small intestine. These attacks lead to damage on the villi, small fingerlike projections that line the small intestine, that promote nutrient absorption. When the villi get damaged, nutrients cannot be absorbed properly into the body.” Not only do you get cramps, diarrhea, bloating and/or constipation, but you can’t absorb nutrients your body needs. It can lead to anemia, osteoporosis, intestinal cancer, bone or joint pain, and a myriad of other life-limiting or ending diseases.

Celiac disease can be diagnosed with a blood test, followed up by an endoscopic biopsy, but it’s not that simple. Say you’ve learned by trial and error that avoiding gluten works for you. You feel better when you don’t eat it, you have flare ups when you do. But, you want to narrow it down and find out if it’s OK to eat once in a while. Are you simply allergic or do you have true celiac disease, where you must avoid gluten completely? If you get a blood test after not eating gluten for a while, it will come back negative, saying you don’t have the disease, even if you do. The blood test looks for antibodies to gluten, which won’t be there if you haven’t been eating it. You would have to eat gluten for a couple of months, sometimes, in order for it to show up in a blood test for celiac disease. Most people can’t afford to have symptoms that long. They have to work and function in their daily lives, which doesn’t include being tied to a toilet.

According to their website, “not all people who react negatively to gluten actually have celiac disease. The symptoms of gluten sensitivity are similar to those of celiac disease. People who are gluten sensitive experience symptoms in response to eating gluten, but will not have intestinal damage and will test negative for celiac disease antibodies.

What to eat?  The Paleo diet looks very appealing to those with celiac disease or gluten sensitivity. Simple. You don’t have to make any big decisions, just eat meat, vegetables, nuts and fruit – all of which are gluten free naturally.

So, next time you throw a Saturday Salon – have some compassion for those who are struggling to know what to eat. Put a little something out there for everyone. Paleo is a good way to go – as long as you have plenty of meat or fish (unbridled), veggie and fruit options, you’ll please your vegetarian and even Atkins friends, too.


For additional perspectives, check out this New York Times article, The Myth of Big, Bad, Gluten.

In Defense of Fashion

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In Defense of Fashion

WANT A BREAK from the election debates? Throw in a question about Fashion into the hat at your next Saturday Salon and watch the fur fly! Defending fashion is a tough task in any audience, but even though my husband and I toss the NY Times Style Magazine onto the floor every Sunday morning with disgust, I bravely picked it up this week and thumbed through it.

Yes, the laughable excess and pre-pubescent models posed in almost pornographic poses were there; and they continue to offend me and every other thinking person on the planet, but there was more. This week, in Andrew O’Hagan’s Karl Lagerfeld interview, a thoughtful gem of truth caught my eye. First paragraph. (I must admit I stopped there – I was not interested in the whole article.)

He said, “It’s about one hundred years since fashion took its place alongside literature, painting, and music as a way to look for the social essence of one’s era.”

Hmmmm…which led me (as everything does) to Google, where I typed in …the relevance of fashion…, which led me to Katherine LaGrave’s article, which explores the topic and puts up a pretty good defense. Interesting read.

Throw a couple of fashion questions in the hat and see where it goes…